As I noted on our Facebook page yesterday, something interesting is starting to happen: random people are starting to read the book, and word is getting back to us on what they think.
There’s this comment from a discussion about the book on Saturday:
It’s the finest Alzheimer’s/caregiver book that I’ve read. I mean that and I’ve probably read nearly all of them.
My wife is near the end after twelve years with Alzheimer’s and most books on the subject are about worthless. Usually they are written by a “caregiver” who does it by telephone. Your book, though, had me shaking my head in agreement throughout, letting me know that someone else understood and had experienced my journey. I know that your insight will help during my first year after.
John heard from someone who had helped us with the ‘beta reading’ who had loaned it to a friend. She passed on this:
“Probably the most powerful book I have EVER read! I would put it down, and take a break and pick it back up…”
I heard from my old editor at the Columbia Tribune, who is now fully overwhelmed in care-giving for family. He said this in response to getting the book:
I started leafing through it and started reading whenever I stopped on a page because it was so personal in nature but also because we, C and I, can relate in so many ways. Oh so many similar issues except my mother-in-law does not have Alzheimer’s, but we also have a paraplegic brother-in-law in a nursing home too. Oh, and C’s mom has been on hospice twice but has been dropped so we pay for aides to help us even though we have not had a vacation in five years.
Broken hips? Yup. Been there and done that.
Multiple hospital visits? Too numerous to count.
Anger and frustration and burnout? Check.
I will certainly read the book and get back to you. I’m positive this book will benefit neophytes AND oldtimers like us.
And then the person who made the first quote above added this comment yesterday:
I really do like the book!
Usually caregiving books just make me mad. You guys and your wives covered so many valuable areas and did it so openly.
What makes this particularly interesting is that in each case, including the Amazon reviews, the people who have responded this way seem to become promoters of the book, wanting others to also read it.
If that continues then that will be our best means of making the book a success. There’s nothing like word-of-mouth for promoting a book, particularly when the good reviews come from people who themselves have experienced what it means to be a care-provider. That’s the sort of thing which can break-through the natural reluctance to talk about this intensely personal subject.
As Kathi put it yesterday:
You want to know something? I don’t especially like talking about this. But I have to. Not just for me, but for all of us.
One day we’ll all be the ones needing care.
And if our loved ones have no clue where to begin, what will happen not just to us, but to them?
Jim D.